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Love Crosses Borders

International • Intercultural • Interracial Dating

When to Ask for the First Date

Sooner rather than later. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun. It is personal preference on how long to wait but there are very few reasons to delay with the exception of those in a long distance or international relationships. After all, contacting someone is just a pre-cursor to the first date. It’s not as if you hoping to “chat” with someone and end it there. You want to talk with them and if things go well meet them.


One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. This is not a very good reason. Most daters agree that the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails and phone calls.


Actually meeting the person you are talking to is one of the most important steps to online dating. Maybe even more so in intercultural and interracial dating. That sounds amusing but many online daters dwell on internet communication overly long. The dating site should function as an introduction, not the main event.